We humans are born to live as social creatures. That’s how nature has wired us. However much we may remind ourselves of the grain of individuality inside us, but we still crave for the love and acceptance from others around us. However much the artificial intelligence develops and we might fall for its benefits, but we will still crave for human touch and love. This is something that has remained unchanged in humans since years of evolution.
This brings me to the relationships we have with people around us and how that affect people’s work and emotional efficacy. For a healthy relationship with others, first and foremost a satisfying relationship with oneself is most essential. If you are not happy with yourself, how can you expect others around you to be happy with you? Let’s consider your relationship with others is not so fruitful and joyful. Why? Is something wrong with you or all those people you are having a problem with?
I have talked with many people about this, and have reached to a conclusion that ones’s own ASSUMPTIONS and EXPECTATIONS are two vicious enemies in any relationship. And each one of us has in some point in life fallen prey to these. Isn’t it? We can identify the culprits in our relationship, still we see so many people around struggling in their relationships. Perhaps knowing is not enough; one needs to work upon certain skills so as to dilute the shades of ASSUMPTIONS and EXPECTATIONS that poison our relationships.
The point of this blog post is to share various viewpoints I have collected, and see relationship from a fresh perspective, deepen our understanding of ourselves and our relationships, rewire one’s brain and create more happiness In this context, I had posed two questions within my social circle. Various people responded with their experiences and shared how exactly they manage with relationship issues. I would like to share their personal viewpoints here. Ladies and gentlemen, here are the two questions and a slice of societal advice served right on your plate.
Q1. How to train your mind to stop making assumptions about others’ actions?
Q2. How to stop expecting in a relationship?
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others.
Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval.
Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
– Lao Tzu